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Blogging requires inspiration and a burst of motivation. That motivation comes whenever I’m unhappy and frustrated and seeking the acceptance and comfort from my own self-talk. Or it could come from the sense of achievements and the short-living proud me.

Blogging is all about the blogger, which is me! It should be in any shapes I want it to be. It should and it is going to! 

- people around me whom I trust and who love me no matter what
- people who set limits for me so I know when to stop before there is danger or trouble
- people who show me how to do things correctly by the way they do things
- people who want me to learn to do things on my own
- people who help me when I am sick, in danger or needs to learn.

I am:

- a person people can like and love
- glad to do nice things for others and show my concern
- respectful of myself and others
- willing to be responsible for what I do
- sure things will be all right

I can:

- talk to others about things that frighten or bother me
- find ways to solve problems I face
- control myself when I feel like doing something that is not right or dangerous
- figure out when it is good time to talk to someone or to take action
- find someone to help me when I need to

]]> http://kheetat.wordpress.com/2010/10/04/the-three-sources-of-resilience/feed/ 0 Jared http://kheetat.wordpress.com/2010/09/30/an-unexpected-thank-you/ http://kheetat.wordpress.com/2010/09/30/an-unexpected-thank-you/#comments Thu, 30 Sep 2010 13:31:02 +0000 Jared http://kheetat.wordpress.com/?p=411 ]]> I was on my way from town to meet my dearest friends for lunch at Jurong Point.

The train was not that crowded since it was after lunch hours. But still, there were no seats available for me. As usual, I moved to the center of the cabin, found a comfortable spot, open up my book and starting reading.

The ride was relaxing; No body odours and disturbing passengers in the cabin.

Before the train reaches Jurong East Interchange, I lifted my bag and prepared to give ways to the alighting passengers. Being an interchange, I knew how crowded that place can be.

The doors were opened, and I look around and pace myself. Just then, I got a tab on my left shoulder.

It was this old uncle and he repeatedly said with a grateful smile, “Thank you for giving me the seat”.

I was stunned for awhile, trying to collect my memories for the past 30 minutes. For what I know, I was clear that I did not offer any seats to anyone, because I don’t have any.

Anyway, it always feel good to help happy people around. And his simple ‘Thank You’ made my day. And it made me realize something.

Whenever someone says ‘Thank you’, my first reaction is to reciprocate with a similar ‘Thank You’ and smile. It ain’t difficult to put a smile on your face. This little effort could give others’ a better day too.

Be generous with your SMILE and THANK YOU.

]]> http://kheetat.wordpress.com/2010/09/30/an-unexpected-thank-you/feed/ 0 Jared http://kheetat.wordpress.com/2010/09/29/popeyes-not-that-strong-after-all/ http://kheetat.wordpress.com/2010/09/29/popeyes-not-that-strong-after-all/#comments Wed, 29 Sep 2010 13:55:55 +0000 Jared https://kheetat.wordpress.com/2010/09/29/popeyes-not-that-strong-after-all/ ]]> I have heard many great reviews about how tasty the chickens are in popeye and wendy. So, I decide to give popeye a try this evening.

As I have cravings for kfc today, I was hoping that popeye could hit the spot. I ordered the hari raya special deal which comes with 2 piece chicken, a side, chicken bites and a drink.

The portion seems sufficient for a regular guy like me, but I did not enjoy the meal. KFC has been my regular place for tasty fried chickens and loved it ever since.

After trying the chicken, my conclusion is that the chicken is cooked and safe for consumption. It is not as tasty and juicy as KFC, but I feel that popeye fare worst off than the western food franchise (ke ai ji) that is widely available in the neighbourhood.

I do feel that popeye is similar to texas chicken (united square) in terms of the quality of fried chicken. I will not patronise these 2 shops again if there are better alternatives.

]]> http://kheetat.wordpress.com/2010/09/29/popeyes-not-that-strong-after-all/feed/ 0 Jared http://kheetat.wordpress.com/2010/09/12/learning-to-manage-your-emotions/ http://kheetat.wordpress.com/2010/09/12/learning-to-manage-your-emotions/#comments Sun, 12 Sep 2010 15:41:59 +0000 Jared http://kheetat.wordpress.com/?p=405 ]]> Describe a situation in the last month where you felt you were unsuccessful in correctly identifying your own emotions, and possibly those of others as well.

I was using my laptop, which is connected to the power source, and out of a sudden,  I noticed that the screen light seems to be dimmer. Then there was a prompt from the battery manager indicating that it is low in energy. It caught my attention because the battery is weak and mostly on the directly power source. I anxiously saved my document, afraid that I would lose my long hours of work.

I voiced out the situation and asked around if they face the same problem. I felt irritated and annoyed on their sudden power shutdown without notice.  I remained ill tempered even though my manager went to check out the situation.

Minutes later, she came back saying that there was a short circuit and the electricity will be back once they are fixed. I noticed that my feelings switched from irritated, annoyed and ill tempered to understanding. I understand that there is nothing that I could do about it, and I took the opportunity to take a break and refreshed myself.

10 mins later, my laptop’s screen brightness returned to normal and I noticed a smile on my face.

What emotions did you have difficulty identifying in yourself and in the other person or people?

Amygdala first got me to save my documents before my neocortex made a more controlled assessment of the situation. I felt anxious about losing my document.

I was able to recognize my irritation and acted to defuse it – empathizing with the situation, distracting myself with coffee and refreshments.

What skills would you like to have had so that you could have managed your emotions more effectively?

I would like to have a stronger and faster neocortex so that it could talk common sense to me and attempt to save me from rash actions and decisions.

What steps can you now take to develop these skills?

I can try to take a deep breath while clenching my fist for ten seconds to release my negative emotions.

Can you identify any costs and/or benefits to taking these steps?

This would encourage me to re-evaluate the validity of my negative thinking and replace these thoughts with more balanced and positives ones.

]]> http://kheetat.wordpress.com/2010/09/12/learning-to-manage-your-emotions/feed/ 0 Jared http://kheetat.wordpress.com/2010/09/11/%e6%89%be%e8%ae%b8%e5%a4%9a%e7%9a%84%e7%90%86%e7%94%b1-%e8%ae%b8%e5%a4%9a%e7%9a%84%e8%97%89%e5%8f%a3/ http://kheetat.wordpress.com/2010/09/11/%e6%89%be%e8%ae%b8%e5%a4%9a%e7%9a%84%e7%90%86%e7%94%b1-%e8%ae%b8%e5%a4%9a%e7%9a%84%e8%97%89%e5%8f%a3/#comments Sat, 11 Sep 2010 10:28:37 +0000 Jared http://kheetat.wordpress.com/?p=400 ]]> 想要努力用功 但是头有点痛

作业还有很多 明天再做

想要歌写很多 想要努力练球

但是时间永远不够

是谁乱动我的生理时钟

害我不想动(更堕落)

是谁乱动我的schedule

还没做的那麼多

找许多的理由 许多的藉口

让自己不往前走

用许多的理由 许多的藉口

让自己不用去行动

继续的做梦 (只需要心动)
肚子肥肉很多 应该努力运动

但是今天腰有点痛

脸上痘痘很多 不该熬夜太久

但是真的想打电动
到底还要 沈默到什麼时候

为什麼不能够 想要做就立刻做 不要拖

]]> http://kheetat.wordpress.com/2010/09/11/%e6%89%be%e8%ae%b8%e5%a4%9a%e7%9a%84%e7%90%86%e7%94%b1-%e8%ae%b8%e5%a4%9a%e7%9a%84%e8%97%89%e5%8f%a3/feed/ 0 Jared http://kheetat.wordpress.com/2010/09/08/stay-fit-stay-healthy/ http://kheetat.wordpress.com/2010/09/08/stay-fit-stay-healthy/#comments Wed, 08 Sep 2010 13:20:00 +0000 Jared http://kheetat.wordpress.com/?p=393 ]]> Yeah!

Finally, I passed my IPPT with a shinning silver after 3 attempts at the katib camp. It is my first silver after my NS, and it is very encouraging and motivating to improve my fitness through regular exercises.

I was prepared to take the test today. I had a plate of chicken rice for lunch and a bar of snickers for pre-test boost. I remembered that snickers helps me completed 42km 2 years ago, so i guess it would help my IPPT too.

And so I went down to the camp with my blue tee and running shorts and geared with my favourite mp3 player. It was drizzling but it didn’t dampen my mood.

‘I want a silver. Ah. Pass also can. Just get it over and done with for the year’. I said to myself.

Registered and got my number tag, 070. ‘Definitely a better number than my previous 044′. I mumbled.

I knew that I had to preserve some energy for my 2.4km run, I cannot exert too much energy for the static stations. So I gave less attention to shuttle run and sit up. I was confident that I could get 5 points easily.

The one station that boost my morale was standing broad jump. Astonishingly, I jumped 225cm,which is  enough to put me in the silver league. ‘I got to cherish this jump’, I encouraged myself.

Last static station was the pull up, where I managed to pull 8 times and continue the journey for silver.

I was very nervous. I felt that my thighs were weak and afraid that I might not do well.

‘Jog on the spot, 3, 2, 1 GO!’, the PTI shouted.

There I go, running round the track, just like the hamsters running in their cage.

The first round started fine with 1 min 48 seconds on the clock. Speed started to slow down, usually in the second and third round which I took about 2 mins to complete each round.

‘If I continue at this pace, I might be able to get a silver’, I did a quick mental calculation.

I was alarmed when I clocked 8 mins at the 4th round. I know I shouldn’t do this, but I dropped my expectation to a pass instead.

Even thou, I picked up my speed a little at ended the 5th round with 9mins 40 seconds. I was surprised and I’m still fit to aim for a silver.

I picked up my speed slowly and continue to push myself forward. “I knew I can do it”, “you can have all the rest you want after this 100m”. At the last 100m, I picked up my speed and sprint when I was at the last 50m. I though my eyes fooled me, but I checked the timing again, “11.31″. “Oh great! I got a silver!!”, I gave myself a pat at the back.

My recent work out pays off and I’m now more motivated to keep up my regular exercise. Definitely not aiming for a gold next year, but I hope to be better than this year.

Stay Fit, Stay Healthy! Thats my new lifestyle goal. I have the advantage of flexible working schedule, so I must make full use of it. YEah!

]]> http://kheetat.wordpress.com/2010/09/08/stay-fit-stay-healthy/feed/ 0 Jared http://kheetat.wordpress.com/2010/09/05/390/ http://kheetat.wordpress.com/2010/09/05/390/#comments Sun, 05 Sep 2010 13:51:04 +0000 Jared http://kheetat.wordpress.com/?p=390 ]]> This morning when I woke up, I said 3 things to myself.

“I want to write down the funny dreams that I had last night”

“I want to lead a healthier lifestyle by making the effort to jog in the evening around my neighborhood. “

“I want to do some housework to make my nest a better place”

I have done all these 3 task and I felt great after it.  Now that I updated my blog, enjoying the satisfaction of muscle ache from the evening exercise and better environment, it is a great start for the week!

Let’s do it again.

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